A lot
has happened in the last week. When I wrote my first post on Jian Ghomeshi, on
Monday, Oct. 27, it was about 24 hours after reading his Facebook post that set
out to discredit the allegations that (he knew) were forthcoming. Now, it’s hard
to even remember what I thought about Jian Ghomeshi, if anything, before a week
ago.
At
that point, when I jumped into the conversation to try to articulate my
frustration with how discussions were focusing on the titillation of “unusual”
/ BDSM sex practices instead of non-consensual sexual violence, I didn’t have
much information about the alleged victims and tried to refrain from writing
the commentary as though Ghomeshi was guilty of the allegations of sexual
violence.
A
little over a week later, I feel quite confident writing as though he is
guilty.
The
defenders and, to a lesser extent, the neutral zone commentators, thought to
even discuss the situation in terms of the alleged victims’ presumed innocence
was unfair to Ghomeshi because criminal charges had not been filed. For some,
the absence of a criminal investigation delegitimizes the validity of the
complaint. I have a deal of faith in Canada’s justice system, but I know it is
imperfect. I know whether or not a formal police probe exists can be irrelevant
to whether or not a crime has been committed.
But
in the short time since the allegations came forward, first with four anonymous
victims, then with some women putting their name and faces to the allegations,
and then the count rose to eight alleged victims, the Ghomeshi fiasco has snowballed
considerably. The suggestion of a nefarious jilted ex being the reason he was fired from
CBC no longer seems even remotely plausible.
I find myself wondering if he is deliberately deceptive, consciously trying to exert his power over women for sexual pleasure and get away with it, or a deluded narcissist so wrapped up in his own image that he has, somehow, convinced himself that he was entitled to do these things and, somehow, consent was granted.
Of course, entitlement to women’s bodies is a larger symptom of toxic masculinity.
I believe
the way many media outlets, commentators, blogs, and individuals approached the
topic – as crucially important to discuss and analyze critically, as connected
to serious issues of sexual assault and abuse of power – may have helped more
people come forward. And now everywhere we listen or read we can find more
personal testimonies of encounters with Ghomeshi ranging from awkward to
blatantly inappropriate, of journalism interns or grads being warned to stay
away from Q, of people who heard about his behaviour but thought they were just
rumours.
Suddenly, we can see that the revelations that stunned so many of us
who don’t know him were not so surprising to former dates, coworkers, and
others in the industry.
Imagine
if all those who believed the women, who believed sexual assault is horrendous
and not the victim’s fault, and who believed that CBC must have had ample
justification to fire him based on complaints and evidence, had just decided
not to discuss it because “innocent until proven guilty” is one of our core values?
Imagine
if the absence of a named woman
coming forward and filing a police report was enough to believe Ghomeshi’s
elaborate post and pre-emptive plea for forgiveness?
It’s
telling that Navigator, the crisis management PR firm, no longer represents him.
It’s telling that we haven’t heard a peep out of him since Thursday (Oct. 30)
about his plans to confront allegations “head on.”
But
more important than Ghomeshi’s guilt or innocence, or the possibility that, in
order for him to indeed be innocent and truthful, several unconnected women
would have had to coincidentally reveal fabricated allegations of his sexual
and physical abuse, is what this case may mean for victims of rape, sexual
assault, and sexual harassment.
Although
it may seem minor by comparison to physical violence, I deliberately include
sexual harassment, especially workplace sexual harassment, in this list. I
think navigating reporting a coworker (who may also be more influential, more
securely employed, and maybe even your boss or someone you report directly to)
as a perpetrator of sexual or gender-based harassment is a similar although
unique quagmire.
Often, there are no criminal charges to seek, no police report
to file, in a workplace harassment / hostile work environment case. Why?
Because so much of how men treat women in the workplace has been normalized
to the point that it may not even be seen as a transgression.
There
can be a lot of pressure for complainants of sexual harassment to determine the
solution – do you want to sit down, face to face, with the perpetrator and
explain how you feel with the help of a mediator? Then you can feel awkward for
the rest of time and dread going to work while the perpetrator ostracizes or,
perhaps, increases the intensity of their harassment. No thanks.
I
hope the revelations of these brave women – survivors of sexual assault and
abuse – coming forward to report their experiences with Jian Ghomeshi helps
more women come forward. I hope this story, which has astonished the country,
is a tipping point for adjusting and reframing how sexual violence is
understood in society.
There
are so many reasons why victims feel they cannot report, and we need to
cultivate a culture that lets them. I hope that, at least, comes out of this.
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